The Male Brain - Men are obsessed with sex, hide their emotions, and cheat

Uma once asked me, "... when you meet a lady, where do you look first ?". The question was not any surprise to me. I had a clear and precise answer, as I have analysed this issue long ago. My answer to Uma on this question , however was complex. Instead of a straight answer, I replied :
'Ask me the second question ... where do you look at then ?'. 
She fired me with "Mamma, you always are shrewd ... you never give me a straight answer. See, now to my question, you posed a second ..  Now, tell me where do you look at her, when you meet a female ?"
She made the scope of the question a bit broader. I decided to me honest, and to the point. I said, "...face..".
"Then ? " Uma posed next. 
"Breast ! " I said.
She was too happy in my honest answer. This made her start explaining her experiences ( and those knowledge from mother and other close friends). 
On her pausing ( I didn't dare to stop her !) I said .."but there's always a filter... a psychological filter... to screen off some ... The filter works right at the beginning.... that's when you meet..".
Uma was curious .. she sharpened the ears to me.
"When I meet some female, young or old, my mental filter warns me how to and where to look. By default, the eyes go on to her face... But the problem is the next ... if not very closely related , the eyes jump to her breast.... I can't resist that .. it just happens.." I said.

Uma, with a moment's pause said "maammaa.. that's normal ... there's nothing unusual. All men are like that. They stare at the breasts ... right at the first moment someone sees me..".


"That's nature's rule .. " I became a philosopher. 
"but... do you relish that look ? " I posed a further query to her.
"Yes... Yes.. certainly ... all women enjoy that ..." she was quick to respond.
"The why some ladies fire you with the fire in their eyes and face ? "... I asked.
"That's not honest ... it's a pretention..." Uma said in her soft tones. 
"That's only a defensive action ... expression to stop at that limit.." . Uma went on to say.." it's feminine to be seen .. so females always show.. they like to be seen by men ... but they are scared of the society , to cross any limits.. "
That's a natures rule, I told myself.


YOU may wonder, why I started all this "lost" conversations ? The point is that I feel relaxed, when I read that a lady psychologist has proved that "men are obcessed with sex". Instead of writing any more blah..blah... let me show you what Yahoo reported today. 

http://in.news.yahoo.com/139/20100401/385/ten-it-s-official-men-are-obsessed-with.html

It's official: Men are obsessed with sex, hide their emotions, and cheat

Thu, Apr 1 12:25 PM

London, Apr 1 (ANI): Expert Dr Louann Brizendine has dived inside a man's mind and confirmed what most women long suspected: men are obsessed with sex, hide their emotions, and cheat.

According to Brizendine, testosterone causes the "man trance", where blokes have to stare at boobs, reports The Daily Star.
She says: "The best advice I have for women is make peace with the male brain. Let men be men."
Some of the other findings in the expert's new book Male Brain: A Breakthrough Understanding Of How Men And Boys Think are:
1 Men really are sex-crazed
The brain's part inked to sexual pursuit is two-and-a-half times larger in males than females.
2 They're programmed to perv
The testosterone drives what Louann calls the "man trance" - a glazed-eye stare at breasts. She says: "I wish I could say that men can stop themselves from entering this trance. But the truth is, they can't."
3 Men want more partners
According to the book, men want an average of 14 sexual partners in their lifetime. Women want one or two.
Louann says: "It's postcoital narcolepsy. During orgasm, males release a huge amount of oxytocin in their brains, and it is very sedating. It's not that he doesn't love you."
4 Men lie more about sex
Biologically speaking, men are more comfortable lying to the opposite sex.
5 Foreplay round the clock
In case of women, foreplay is everything that happens in the 24 hours before intercourse. For men it's what happens three minutes before entry
Louann says: "The male brain's initial emotional reaction can be stronger than the female. But within 2.5 seconds his face changes to hide the emotion, or even reverse it."
The expert doesn't reckon her book justifies bad behaviour. She says: "This is not giving men an excuse to rape and pillage. But men do have a right to give voice to their biological predisposition and have it come in to the dialogue." (ANI)

Here is the link to the author :  http://www.louannbrizendine.com/

And here is what Wiki says about the author :  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Louann_Brizendine

Louann Brizendine M.D., is a neuropsychiatrist and the author of The Female Brain which was published by Morgan Road Books in 2006.
Dr. Brizendine is an expert in women's moods and hormones. Her academic credentials include completing her degree in Neurobiology at UC Berkeley, attending Yale School of Medicine and completing a residency in Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School in Psychiatry. She is board certified in Psychiatry and Neurology and is an endowed clinical professor. She joined the faculty of UCSF Medical School at the Langley Porter Psychiatric Institute in 1988 and now holds the Lynne and Marc Benioff endowed chair of psychiatry. At UCSF, Dr. Brizendine pursues active clinical, teaching, writing and research activities.
In 1994, she founded the UCSF Women's Mood and Hormone Clinic^[1]and continues to serve as its director. The Women's Mood and Hormone Clinic is a psychiatric clinic designed to assess and treat women of all ages experiencing disruption of mood, energy, anxiety, sexual function and well-being due to hormonal influences on the brain. Dr. Brizendine also treats couples in the clinic.
Additionally, Brizendine teaches courses to medical students, residents and other physicians throughout the country addressing the topics of the brain effects of hormones, mood disorders, anxiety problems and sexual interest changes due to hormones.